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  • Writer's pictureLaura DG

Love Yourself First: A Single’s Guide to Valentine’s Day

In this blog post, Olivia + Laura share the different ways to celebrate Valentine's Day, even without a valentine.

On Valentine’s Day, a day that often emphasizes romantic connections, those who are not currently in a romantic relationship might feel an amplified sense of loneliness. The societal expectations and cultural narratives surrounding this day can contribute to a feeling of being left out or not conforming to the norm.

Participating in activities that foster self-appreciation, like writing love letters to yourself or embracing solo adventures, helps to fill the emotional gaps. It’s a way of acknowledging that your worth is not contingent on external relationships and that there is richness in the most important relationship in your life -- you.

While societal expectations may emphasize the romantic side, not everyone finds themselves swept up in heart-eye emojis. Instead of succumbing to the pangs of loneliness, let’s redirect the focus and transform Valentine’s Day into a celebration of self-love.

  1. Write a Love Letter to Yourself: Write down everything you appreciate about yourself. If writer’s block strikes, envision writing to a friend, or extend gratitude to your past self for valuable lessons. Or even explore your future self’s perspective.

  2. Fall Back in Love with Your Life: Don’t postpone happiness until a romantic partner arrives. Indulge in the magic of the present – relish good food, explore new places, and wear that fabulous dress. Treat yourself well without waiting for external validation.

  3. Get to Know Yourself Better: Explore the NY Times’ "36 Questions to Lead to Love" or We're Not Really Strangers solo or with friends. Celebrate various forms of love, recognizing that romantic love isn’t the only one worth cherishing.

  4. Unplug and Dive into a Book: Step away from social media and immerse yourself in books that celebrate friendships and self-love. I suggest reads like Dolly Alderton’s “Ghosts” or Alissa DeRogatis’s “Call It What You Want”.

  5. Remember, It’s Just a Day: Remind yourself that Valentine’s Day is just one day among many.

By embracing self-love, celebrating various forms of love, and engaging in meaningful rituals, this day can transform into an opportunity for personal growth and appreciation. Remember, you’re not alone; you’re in the company of the most important person – yourself.

And if you're in a loving relationship, make Valentine's Day serve as a reminder that you are the most important person in your life and that relationship requires nurturing too.


Laura from Olivia + Laura


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